Twin Flame v.s. Twin Soul Relationship

Many aren’t aware that these are not the same. Many refer to Twin Flames with “Twin Souls”. Theoretically this would be correct, but what is meant is NOT the same.
There are vast differences between the two relationships, but there are similarities as well which doesn’t help define what you’re dealing with.
Let’s visualize it:

– Twin Ray
– Twin Flame
– Twin Soul
– Soulmates
– Everybody else

As you can see the one and only other half is your Twin Ray. However, mankind has not ascended enough yet for it to be possible to meet your Twin Ray. Of course you are connected to your Twin Ray, energetically.
The next tier down is the Twin Flame. You have more than one. Yes. You really do, from what I understand you have 12 Twin Flames.
BUT… you can only ever meet one Twin Flame this life. Only one Twin Flame has reincarnated with you. The others are not on this planet.
Meaning the Twin Flame relationship is the highest vibrational relationship possible.

A tier lower you find the Twin Souls. You have more than one of those as well, 144 (do you notice the Sacred Geometric numbers here?)
Many of them have incarnated with you, so you can meet more than one Twin Soul during your life. They can be your friend, partner, family. Because this is still a very high vibrational relationship they will likely be someone you feel deeply for.

Soulmates, thousands of them. Oftentimes when you meet someone that makes you feel like you know them from somewhere, someone you have an instant click with, they’re a soulmate. Soulmates can enter your life for years, a day, a week or a mere few minutes. No matter what, they often bring you something beautiful. A lesson of sorts. They too are close to you, even though not nearly as close as a Twin Flame. You meet many soulmates in your lifetime, chances are that your friends are, or a neighbor you really like, a colleague you really get along with, siblings, your kids, your parents, or your partner.

Mostly the goal of the relationship.
The goal of a Twin Soul relationship is mostly personal. They help you to grow, they trigger your issues so you can work through them and by doing so raise your vibration. It helps cleanse your energy system from blockages: all issues and traumas are also to be found in your energy system.
Twin Souls usually mirror you like you wouldn’t believe, and because this triggers issues in you, such a relationship can be very tumultuous. Lots of conflict as you bang around to work out your issues and heal them.
Some Twin Soul relationships work out, aren’t as much of a roller-coaster ride as it is for others. This depends -as always- on where you are on your path. Maybe you’ve already worked out a lot of stuff in past lives with other Twin Souls, so there’s less ‘garbage’ left to clear out. Then the relationship can be a lot calmer. Twin Soul relationship do not always last… It can become too much, or maybe you need another Twin Soul to mirror different things in you so you can grow more. (I think maybe the reason why so many people these days divorce) This is good!! We aren’t meant to remain stagnant in a relationship that doesn’t make us happy and whole. We are meant to cleanse, work through issues, and grow. Expand. So we raise the vibration of mankind, the planet and everything on it.
Personal growth and development is the main goal of a Twin Soul relationship.

The goal of a Twin Flame relationship goes beyond personal. When you are ready for a Twin Flame relationship you have worked through most of your issues -with the help of Twin Souls in the past. This may have taken many lifetimes as we all had and have many wounds that need(ed) healing.
Because you have worked through most of your personal stuff, you are now ready to serve a higher purpose, together with your Twin Flame. This purpose is to experience unconditional love, which raises the vibration of mankind and the planet. It is not just you two, what you two create. The high vibration of Twin Flame love will connect with that of other Twin Flames. So together you create a very high vibrational field of unconditional love that will touch others all over the world. This will help other people to also raise their vibration and to grow and expand, to enter more loving and balanced relationships. When more people do so, the vibration of everything on our planet will go up even more.
This is the goal of a Twin Flame relationship. It is NOT personal, it is NOT the ultimate romantic love relationship. That’s NOT what it’s about. If you want that, you are better off in a soulmate relationship.
Why? Because it is NOT personal. It’s not about you getting all lovey dovey with another person, you are meant to serve a Higher Divine purpose…
Again, it is not about sitting on sofa, holding hands and feeding each other bonbons. It is about servitude. Not a 3D type of serving, which likely reminds you of plodding and slavery. I’m talking about a higher form of serving: As a soul we all came here with a goal, we all are love, we all want to give and share love, unconditionally. That type of serving is what I’m talking about. And that’s the type of serving that Twin Flames have to do.
Of course that’s not a mental decision, it’s what you’re ready for. What you want to do, what you long to do. It’s a Soul craving.
This is why you have to be ready for a Twin Flame relationship!! As long as you aren’t ready as an individual yet to do this kind of serving you aren’t ready. You will need to work through your personal stuff first so at some point you will be ready for it.
If reading that part about serving triggers resistance in you, you aren’t ready yet.
Good news is: That is okay! Where you are on your path is okay, regardless of where it is. It is just fine.

A bit more info on a Twin Flame relationship:
it isn’t always hunky dorey from the word go. Even though you have cleansed and worked through most of your issues, there are still some deeper things or last shreds of them that may need to be healed. For most that is the case. Oftentimes you aren’t aware of that, but a Twin Flame will trigger these things. They can do that because they touch you deeper than anyone else ever has before. So in a way they can get to things that even you may not have seen until they triggered you. In that sense they mirror you, but not like a Twin Soul does. It is different.
Nevertheless, it does mean you will have these things come up, and as they are the last and deepest hidden parts of issues, it can cause a lot of upheaval.
Isn’t that great! Just as you thought you worked through it all, more work to be done! But in my experience, this will go at the speed of light because you have the support of your Twin Flame AND because it truly are the last bits and pieces. You’ve already dumped the garbage bag, it’s cleaning the crumbs out of the bin that were left behind.
THIS AGAIN MEANS YOU HAVE TO BE READY: if you haven’t dumped the garbage bag yet, you cannot get to the crumbs.

And sorry to be so forceful about this, but so many people in the online Twin Flame community just don’t understand this concept. Feel it is about romantic love, finding ultimate love and living happily ever after. They don’t understand (yet) that first they have to do the work, that they have to get that garbage bag out of the bin in order to be ready for a connection like a Twin Flame.
And as Abraham Hicks says: There is no such thing as a quantum leap.
You cannot skip steps, there is no short-cut. Trust me, everyone who is with their Twin Flame has done the work. Many, many lifetimes, and mostly they’ve gone through more crappy stuff this life before they were ready to meet their Twin Flame.
It likely won’t go down well to hear, but most I’ve come across that seem to be with their Twin Flame -and not think they are out of co-dependency- are around 45-50 years old.
Most younger people I come across in the Twin Flame community who claim to be with their Twin Flame all display behavior and thoughts that clearly indicate they are not ready. And thus cannot be with their Twin Flame. They are likely with a Twin Soul.
Sorry… don’t shoot the messenger. But wanting to be with your Twin Flame doesn’t make you ready… Even more so, if you need to meet your Twin Flame, it’s a sign you aren’t ready. You are ready when you don’t need them, when you are not looking for them.
Embrace where you are on your path, albeit with a soulmate, Twin Soul or Twin Flame. Don’t try to make a quantum leap. Work on getting your growth by cleaning out any ‘garbage’ (issues, fears, insecurities, self-esteem). And trust that it will come. You do NOT need to be with your Twin Flame in order to be happy! Nor do you get a medal for meeting your Twin Flame.
Trust, embrace where you are, love yourself, and live a happy life.



Twin Flame Roller-Coaster Ride

Since some 2 months I’ve been watching weekly Twin Flame Tarot readings. I find they are really helpful and insightful, and always spot on.
I just watched this week’s reading again, because when I first saw it it didn’t resonate with me at all. For the first time. Now it does resonate. I’m in a different place now than I was a few days ago. I was quite stable, loving etc. now I’m questioning the whole thing again.
The number of times I have thought of ending it, unreal. I never thought I’d get to that place with him, clearly I was wrong.
I was trying to get clear whether or not my boundaries were being crossed. That happened too often in the past and I don’t want that again. Ever. Problem is that because it happened so often, most of my life really, I find it incredibly hard to define when they are being trampled on or if I’m just thinking they are.

What I realized after watching the weekly TF reading is that it is my ego. My ego is screaming and is scared. Scared that this relationship will go the way it went in the past. That he is treating me the way my narcissistic ex was treating me. Then I have to use common sense -after I’ve calmed myself- to clearly see what is really going on. And then decide it’s okay. As I type this, my panicking ego still doesn’t agree.
Nothing I can do right now can or will improve anything, if nothing else it will likely force a breakup. Somehow my ego thinks that could be best, because then at least it won’t get hurt. And my boundaries won’t get broken. But that in itself is a sign that I do not trust myself to take care of my boundaries when the time calls for it which is not now. I feel like forcing things because I want to know now. I need to know now. Have clarity now. It’s my hurt ego who wants and needs that.
A very unempowered place to be at, it stems from a deep inner fear, not from inner stability. And it’s not a place of the empowered feminine which can go with the flow and trust.
This is really so hard. Every time I think I’ve reached inner stability and security, I find out that yes, it is there at times, more often than ever before. It is growing, the duration of it too. But it’s not rock solid yet. I still wobble. I still doubt and question things and then end up being afraid.

If things between him and me would continue the way they are now, I am not going to be happy. It’s not what I want. I know that. But right now it is okay. For the simple reason that I need this time to manifest my own things, to have these old fears and wounds come up so I can heal them.
Do I like it? Not so much. It would be much easier and thus nicer to have him come running to me all the time, wanting to be with me, and doing all he can to make that happen.
Would that make me happy in the long run? I think not, because it would be too co-dependent and smothering. I don’t want a man like that. Right now it would sooth me, would reassure my scared ego. But that’s not what I need. I need to sooth my ego myself. Get rid of all these frigging doubts and fears.
If then he comes running to me, I can receive him from a place of empowerment.

It really doesn’t make sense how the ego or psyche works? In a way I am content with not seeing him very often right now. At the same time my wounded ego gets pissed off with him for not missing me and trying to be with me.

Why is this so hard and why does it take so long? And why can’t I have this scared ego surgically removed? -grin.

I’ll get there, I don’t doubt that for a second. Then hopefully this roller-coaster ride will become a nice boat trip. I don’t like roller-coasters. And when on a boat trip you got time to take in the scenery. It would allow me to relax, dip my hand in the water and feel the water flow around my hand, soft and caressing, the sun warming my skin, a gentle breeze through my hair.
How I’d love that!